The Games People Play
How many of us like to play games? There is a seemingly endless supply of games to amuse and distract, challenge & inform. But what about the games we create in our heads? Mind games…the games we manufacture to control or manipulate, to force our will. The games which stem from the Ego.
There are personal mind games which we play that stem from our belief systems, how we were raised, almost infused into our DNA. These games are hard to stop playing, particularly amongst family members. You know these games; they are predictable and often maddening. They are played over and over again with those who we love and are related too.
There are the collective games we play as a result of our culture, us societal structures. A good example is the way we greet one another. It goes something like this; walk into work and a co-worker says “Hi how are you?” We automatically say something like fine…or we might say “great” if we are feeling particularly good. But what if we’re not, what if we are crappy? Or grieving? Or traumatized and in pain? We are still expected by society to at least say fine. It feels unacceptable to say otherwise, to share our truth whether it be good or bad.
Not every society plays this particular game. In the East Namaste is often the greeting. It in essence means my soul’s light sees and acknowledges your soul’s light. In other words, I SEE you, really see you and accept you for who you are right at this moment in time.
Cool, huh? Whether we choose to play these games is our choice. Over the years I have experimented with changing my rules of the ‘Hi how are you game’ and I can attest to the resistance from others around this particular game change.
Challenge yourself to stop playing some game in your life. Use your boundaries and your truth as a shield, let yourself stand in your power to sit on the side-lines and watch. Be curious about the the shifts. Allow others, our yourself, know you are no longer on the team and let yourself win.